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Ten Ways to Ease into Effortlessness
Published on web 6/15/99 Topten.org
1. Decide effortlessness is Easy
The only thing standing in your way of an effortless life right now is the thought that
effortlessness is unusual/difficult/wacky or wrong. These ideas will leave as easy as they
came, easing you in to effortlessness. You can’t struggle your way to effortlessness.
2. Listen for your comfort
Listen with all of your senses. When a shoe feels good, ask someone to send out for 5 more
pairs. When you feel really relaxed, notice, and stay that way.
3. Get fed and eat slowly
A Dionysan feast might be nice, but in lieu of that, go out to eat. Know that the
hands that serve you- serve you. Realize all the services that make your life effortless
right now- use them.
4. Breathe (like someone needed to tell you to do that….)
5. Take the low road - gravity is on your side
Decide to take the easiest path to your destination, in fact, hitch a ride on an
elephant’s back. Sometimes the high road takes hiking gear and muscle
strain….unless of course, you have wings.
6. Smooth-in some ruffles - they create great cushion.
And extra air-pockets for breeziness. Texture is indicative of effortlessness-
nature is full of ruffles and bumps. It is man’s hands (and efforts) that make rough
spots smooth. Witness the ruffles and bumps as textural zen- simplicity untouched.
7. Wake up by rolling over
Invest in your sleep and take the benefits into your waking life. Roll your sleep over
into an investment in your day. How else can you make your dreams come true?
8. Your thoughts move effortlessly, why not you?
Our thoughts come and go, with lightning speed and little energy. So do our bodies.
Let it come and go as is natural. Choose easy movements, enjoy them. Energy, electricity
and health are your bodies’ nature.
9. Ask someone to clean your clutter
Find the easy way out of a closet full of
clutter…or learn to love it. Reaching into our wallets takes less effort than
reaching the back wall of our basements.
10. Create a vacuum (or mail order for a Eureka)
It is easy to create a vacuum. Remember: removing anything makes a space. How about
removing the idea that effortlessness takes work?
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Top Ten Ways to Design Your Destiny
BA 127- submitted 6/27/99 published 7/22/99
Top Ten Ways to Design Your Destiny…
1. Decide you can do it.
You already are. Every decision you make every day makes YOU! Awaken to this and drive
your destiny.
2. Energize your desires.
And be energized by them. Your desires allied with your decisions make miracles happen.
3. Follow your intuition.
Let your intuition surprise you, and lead you in some unexpected directions as you...
4. Take the lead in your life.
You ARE the champion in your circle. Step up and claim your title. Your life influences
people, whether you want it to or not. Be the winner that lights their lives.
5. Make action your passion.
"Just do it."
6. Evaluate the invaluable - Your Values.
In knowing your values you know yourself. They are what drive you, what you drive, and how
you handle the road of your life.
7. Inform your intentions.
Just like your values, you choose 'em. What do you want to make happen in the world? Why
do you want it? Give yourself the gift of clear intention - and taste the sweetness of
intention made evident.
8. Balance your beliefs.
With your intentions, values and goals. Every belief can serve you easily or challenge you
to grow - give yourself a great mix and watch the party of your life unfold.
9. Enhance your heart
for designing your destiny is most effective with a big heart in mind.
10. Develop your devotion
to that which really matters to you. Designing your destiny is fun for its own sake for
five minutes. What is your life really about?
Written by Elizabeth Mullen, who can be reached at
em@cornerstonecoaching.com, or visited on the web at http://www.cornerstonecoaching.com
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The Top 10 Beliefs That Transform a Life
Originally Submitted on 8/25/99.Published 9/6/99
Whether we think that we are hopeless or holy, alluring or
estimable, our beliefs make a filter through which we experience our world. An empowered
creed creates a powerful life; and transcendence comes from amending the beliefs that bind
us. Infuse yourself with a potent psychological cocktail of belief … the following
ingredients selected from the greatest leaders of our day…
1. I am guided.
Blessing us with relaxation, this belief calls forth the
creative wellspring. Imagine not having to hyper-plan? Or having your own muse? Know that
your brain is not the only authority, and breathe a deep sigh of relief.
2. Life is a gift
Or maybe a joy ride, a magnificent movie, or an amazing
game…. Who can be great in a life that "sucks" or "sinks like a
ship?" Remember, what you say about what life is IS what you
receive. Make life a treat and be treated well by it.
3. Change is good.
Better than just accepting it as simply inevitable, seeing
change as a positive force makes for a thousand and one happinesses in a lifetime of
delight.
4. All actions are a gift of love or cry for love.
Depending on how you assess a situation, this belief will
give YOU gratitude or compassion. Everyone wins either way.
5. Something created me.
Maybe after you were made they threw away the mold, but that
doesn’t mean they also threw themselves off the cliff.
6. Time flies when you’re having a bad time/ time
expands in joyous moments.
We can relive the good times in exquisite detail---stretching
time by feeling the great times anew. Why not see to it that the tough ones pass fast?
7. This too shall pass
Perceive impermanence and relieve yourself from judgement.
Good & Bad are a faltering team when you witness the strengths of Coming & Going.
Perspective here always puts YOU in the winner’s circle.
8. Miracles occur
A sure-fire, hard-wire for awe and wonder. This makes life
exciting and verifies the other beliefs you’ve chosen to apply.
9. Decisions are easy and action a breeze.
Two (or more) are better than one. Thank goodness we are at
choice and have the privilege of jumping into the end zone of action!
10. My subconscious supports me.
Not a storm surge under a house built on stilts- your mind is
a skyscraper built upon a foundation of stone. Your subconscious connects you to the
deepest roots and supports you in your greatest heights.
About the Submitter:
This piece was originally written & submitted by Elizabeth Mullen, Principal Lifecoach
of CornerStoneCoaching and Artist of Effortless Living, who can be reached at
em@cornerstonecoaching.com, or visited on the web. Elizabeth Mullen wants you to know:
Empower yourself...coaching works!
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Originally Submitted on 9/5/99. Published 9/17/99
In business, your word is your power. Results always hit the mark, and the sharp arrow
of language points perception in direction of YOUR imminent success. This is not
self-promotion, but precision of thought made audible in the world. Wouldn’t it be
useful to employ the power of language to color your image? Use these phrases and showcase
your greatest strengths…
1. I will do that.
Offering your accountability before it’s requested tells everyone that you are
solid force of action, and grows your confidence naturally.
2. What is the primary objective of…?
Asking this question gives you the psychology of leadership, and brings certainty to
those who’ve employed your services. This question also gives you the space to
creatively handle the request instead of only following formula.
3. I am unavailable for business on…..
Being at anyone’s beck and call is not half as attractive as a clearly understood
boundary. Better to state clearly your unavailability than to duck out unannounced.
Leaders DO take leisure time, while followers fake unqualified availability.
4. I must have assistance
Even if you don’t think you need it, stating this shines you in the leadership
light. It will grant you a heroic appearance if you do tackle the project alone; or, at
worst, give you a leg-worker.
5. I intend to make you look good.
And mean it too. By stating this you relieve your employer/manager of their ultimate
concern, and free them to see YOUR brilliance.
6. I’ll report progress and results.
Forecasting results puts YOU into momentum and removes confusion from those who employ
you. When you know you’ll be reporting, all you see is progress. And while they are
looking at you, all they see is relief.
7. When will the details be in order?
The required pieces needed to proceed must be made evident. The market
research,license, or contracts that are not your department must be set apart from YOUR
results-commitment. Point out the others’ accountability and strengthen your image as
autonomous leader. (did I mention this covers your rear quarters too?!)
8. I will not ______.
Saying what you will not do beats "can not" or "I’ll try" or
"perhaps so-and-so…" with a big stick. Remember to walk quietly with the
power you carry.
9. I appreciate the challenge.
Saying this makes you look strong, not weak. The lazy say that what they do is easy,
while champions consistently challenges themselves.
10. When will we hold our re-strategizing meeting?
Stating this grants you entree into an expanded role--or a way out alltogether! As long
as you acknowledge that things change, you appear a visionary, and your perspective
ultimately respected
This piece was originally submitted by
Elizabeth Mullen, Speaker, Writer, and Principal LifeCoach of CornerstoneCoachingTM, who
can be reached at em@cornerstonecoaching.com, or visited on the web. Elizabeth Mullen wants you to know:
You can empower yourself! Language matters.
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May 14, 1999
Action and Passion
the Real You "As you like it"
All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely
players , was something Shakespeare wrote. A play within a play- and a profound truth
to boot (if you like it that way).
Have you ever experienced really lopsided communication? A conversation where one
person is full of the fires of passion and one totally rational? This odd and frustrating
mismatch has happened for time immemorial - particularly in our relationships.
Many of us have experienced feeling rational, distant and maybe even aloof while our
partner tries to incite a reaction- using assumptions, miscommunications, maybe even
seductive complements or insults. Many of us have been on the other side as well- trying
to incite a riot from someone else. A riot of fire, of passion, caring, or defense -
anything to feel like we are engaging our partner, not drifting apart.
What would it be like to master these different modes of communication, choose them at
will, and move rapidly toward a desired result? What if we could participate in a
dramaction (a drama played out as a substitute for true action), enjoy the show and walk
away unscathed? What if we could use our passions to fuel our desired outcome? What if we
could use our rationality to match the intensity level of the other person, and
communicate more effectively?
Here Shakespeare's metaphor is so useful. As we step back for a moment into the
awareness that we are all choosing roles in the play of life, we are able to play big and
play off of each other. We can match intensity level- create a memorable scene
and stand with our partner to an ovation. We can also take the stage, stand aside the plot
and give a soliloquy that will take the house down. Our success depends not on winning a
battle as our character, but the mastery with which we play our part.
In the big picture of our lives, our results always lie in the overall success of the
play. They lie in our part, our actions and our ability to bring the best out of the other
players. The best actors are fueled from within, play huge, and use the mode of
communication that best fits the situation at hand - the one that best suits the scene.
Master actors can choose passion or rationality, energy level and style. They can also
choose to use their rationality to stoke their passion, and select reactions that support
the scene. They remember their overall agenda- the success of the play. They "get
lost in the action" and never forget that they are acting. The master knows
there is no glory in standing up alone in a lousy play. The master makes the scene, and
makes their scene-mates into stars.
Who will you make a star today?
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| April
30, 1999
Coffee or tea, Change or consistency?
May I have some leeway with that too?
It seems that one of the most common insults
ever handed out in this culture is that something is "inconsistent". Many of us
have heard this at times in our lives from someone who wanted to shut us up or cut us
down. Sometimes, we've even said that to ourselves as criticism, as a definition of flaw
and weakness. "Inconsistent" has often been used as a keyword for all that is
not undesirable. In reality, inconsistency generates opportunity and prosperity to those
who know its nature. How can you prosper from inconsistency? How will you encourage it to
enrich your life?
This notion of consistency as being desirable deserves some notice and an evaluation
now and then (excuse me, demands consistent evaluation). Consistency is indeed a
value, and is greatly encouraged in the business sector and economy. In the case of
MacDonalds- a hamburger is a hamburger is a hamburger = success. What has been working
great in terms of building consumer confidence, is also what we say we prefer in the stock
market too---steady and consistent growth. Well that's what we've been saying anyway.....
Is is not true that we really embrace, encourage, even battle against consistency
at every turn? Look at the dawning model of business where change is encouraged, expected
and procured. Product and services are ever newly-improving, adding extras and
reengineering, as vision-shifts have become the norm in the highest (read: most
prosperous) companies and boardrooms. The internet forces lightning fast change and
turning on a dime. "Keeping up" is no longer slow and steady growth, but
breakthroughs and thinking outside the box. Consistency is death, unless it is consistent
change.
We humans say we want one thing...but make another true in our lives. How many
investors would choose consistent slow growth over the lightning-fast quick kill?
Okay...maybe many: but that is a trick question. These investors are not comfortable even
in a long term bull market because they know it will turn. Even long term
investors know that they can't hold in perpetuity--there will be a break in tides and
"outs" are planned. These buy and hold fortunes depend on trends, which often
appear like consistency in a box.
On the other hand, a volatile market is heaven to some investors as they ask themselves
how they can profit from its inherent inconsistency. These trading artists watch for -and
indeed create by their actions- market volatility and opportunity. They stand
"outside the box" and look for the front and back side of the trends to make
their fortune. Their only consistency lies in their perspective outside the box.
When we value consistency above change, we base our activities and comfort in the box.
We never really get comfortable here, because we know that change is inevitable. Our life
experience has told us that is true time and time again. We think that life in this box
may feel safe, but it is only temporary (so it feels ultimately not safe).
In our personal lives we say we want consistency in ourselves and others. "He
is a rock", "you can always count on her". They are "in the box",
so to speak---admirable, respect worthy, safe. (a pet rock?!).
Notice though, how many times in our live that we shake things up by withholding,
withdrawing, jumping in forcefully, or convincing others to join us and invest in a new
idea. We like our box, and we like to break out of it. We like others' boxes too.....and
hopefully, we like to see them prosper too.
Take yourself out of the box, and take Jack out too.
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| April 22, 1999 (VALUES)
What
makes your values so special? ..........what did you say they were again?!?
If you were given 30 seconds to recite your values in order, the ones you base your
life around, the ones you live, love and die by, could you do it?
In an informal survey, about 85% of people will either refuse, look confused, or give
an answer like "you know, family values" ( I swear that I asked people
outside of the Bushes too).
An interesting phenomena, but also a bit perplexing. Just how are most people making
their day to day decisions without a clear understanding of their own values? How are
you making your decisions?
Many people act out of emergency or necessity only, (a.k.a. react). But what
determines the necessity...priority... or significance of actions to be taken? Are not
these determinations made from one's values too? Does a human life in danger constitute an
emergency for everyone? Or do many people value certain principals above human life? We
have seen this play itself out time and time again in matters of war and religion.
The reason for knowing our own values is crucial: without this self-knowledge, we
cannot make decisions easily or effectively. For the sake of our own integrity, we must
act in accordance with our values. But how many of us act without truly knowing
what they are, where they come from...or how to prioritize them? This is the fundamental
cause of inner turmoil---conflicting values battling for priority, and causing indecision.
Without knowing (and learning how to "step out of") our own values, we cannot
communicate or influence others in any meaningful way. When we act and speak (and possibly
judge) others based on our value-set, we halt the process of real communication. Stepping
outside of one's own values to truly hear another's is the most effective
way to influence. Acknowledging another's values without judgement,
creates a powerful moment when you can 'win them over'. It is at this time that you have
the ability to communicate what most matters to them, and possibly help a shift to occur.
Take for instance the situation in Kosovo. How many delegations have wined, dined, and
otherwise tried to convince the Serbians to stop their activities. They have not, even
with the best and brightest on the diplomatic team. Is this a function of us not really
understanding the underlying values that are spurring their actions? What is
the Serbs highest value? What's second? What's third? Our news has given us a simplified
understanding, complete with judgement: "these are definitely not American values".
This has worked so far as clarifying our own values, but not been effective in
influencing the behavior of the Serbs. Real and effective communication would suggest that
we listen hard, watch vigilantly and analyze what is really happening
(not what we think "should" be happening). When we see what is
and what matters to others is when we have the ability to create unity and influence our
seeming "enemy". Understanding the nuances of anyone's value-set makes real
communication possible. And real communication makes harmony probable.
Where do you need a little more harmony in your life?
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An important distinction here is: understanding or acknowledging another's values is not
the same as adopting them. We can afford to know our "enemies"
and to deeply understand how they act. It is through this process that strategies are born
and harmony created. Through awareness and decision, we can create harmony where before
there was confusion and strife. We can strategize instead of react.
Coaching helps individuals to discover, define and organize their values, mastering
communication and creating harmony in their individual lives and in relation to others.
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| May 21, 1999
Zen and
the Best of Them, or
Isn't Enlightenment a Gas?
What exactly does spiritual attainment mean to you?
If you are like many seekers, it may mean living in a state of bliss, unfettered by the
comings and goings of material and appearing holy to the world. Or it may mean grooving
out in your Zen garden daily, and chewing your food thoroughly with a holy thought always
in your head. To some of you it may mean being Mother Theresa, Gandhi or equivalent
loving-action-taker. Maybe it means praying daily, or hearing the divine in your mind...
Maybe spiritual attainment is a gas, a gas that you will
evaporate into as you become a better/higher/more grounded/more spiritual person: the
spontaneous combustion bus to the almighty. What is it really for you? and, more
importantly: is that vision ultimately appealing ?!
Many years ago, after a challenging time in my career and personal life, I decided to
pursue enlightenment full-out. It seemed the only goal worthy of my energy, and being
unemployed at the time, a worthy "occupation".
My attempts were fervent and somewhat fruitful: I got exactly what I was looking for.
The only problem was that my idea of spiritual attainment was a foggy amalgamation of
hundreds of religions, paths and opinions. I had no definition of enlightenment that meant
anything to me. All I could see was some vague notion of The Void, The Light, No Desires,
Desire for God, Renunciation, Creativity, Being Here Now, and longing for Heaven (after I
reincarnated a few more times): A.K.A. total confusion. And though I was seriously
seeking, neither myself nor my family or friends found my state to be a particularly holy
one. Hmmm.
If spiritual growth is your warm heart in the midst of adversity, you will attain it.
If it is based on a religion, you can follow the tenants and expect the results. If it is
a short walk on a long beach, then you become holy by the ocean. If you believe it is
easy, you will find your spirit soaring. If you believe spiritual growth is the Grail,
then you will always seek it. If you believe it lies in your perception this moment, then
you have it with you always.
We can realize anytime that it is natural for our sense of spiritual attainment to a)
change over time b) separate from dogma and c) become highly personalized. We can decide
what being holy really means to us. We can choose a compelling vision of our spirituality,
and motivate ourselves to attain it.
What does spiritual growth mean to you? How will you know if you are on the right
track? Does someone hold the answer to this question beside you? If so, who is it? and how
can you get your hands on the book?
What makes YOUR spirit soar?
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| June 3, 1999
Dreams and Visions and Your
Fast Track to Fulfillment
How many of us know what we want, feel that we deserve it, take action, and our
still waiting around for the manifestation of our goals? What is that lag time for anyway?
Lag time most often occurs because we've overlooked the universal principal of coming
and going (a.k.a., hello and goodbye). Two sides of the same coin, these forces work
together and are present at all transformations. No matter what we endeavor, we must not
only envision our future, but also acknowledge our past and fully appreciate our present
to manifest what we want.
Attainment delay is most often due to our inadvertent and subtle discount of what we
have in our current circumstances. Since our psyche cannot endorse loss of any kind, even
loss of an unfulfilling life, we cannot move forward until we acknowledge fully our
present life and appreciate all good herein. We need both visions of our
future and good-byes to our past for a complete manifestation.
As an example, in moving forward in one's career, acknowledging the present means specific
and gracious gratitude for all aspects of the current job, even though desiring to change
it. The "take this job and shove it" mentality has never set anyone up for
fulfillment in a new position. A graceful exit with natural grief makes the transition to
the new easier, faster and far more meaningful. This is not only nice, but necessary. In
the example of the "shove it" departure, the next job almost always mirrors the
same qualities of the last one, so the transformation is superficial only.
This hello/goodbye concept is obvious to most of us when it comes to leaving something
tangible like a job, but it is even more critical when we are making quality of life leaps
in our lives. We are moving forward, and we are also leaving aspects of our
experience behind.
So, how can you apply this to speed up the realization of your dreams and achieve
results now?
Spend a few minutes every single day asking yourself, "What is really great about
my life right now?" to be followed by "what else?"... "what
else?"..."what else?". Ask until you realize something new each time. This
process, though simplistic, gears the psyche for a major shift and gives you ample time
and space to say an internal and gracious goodbye.
Because the gracious goodbye always accompanies an extraordinary hello, say your
good-byes right now and step in gently into the company of a warm and wonderful hello.
Your future is beckoning you...and it walks hand in hand with your present moment.
Acknowledge them both and realize your dreams with lightning speed.
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Working with a coach will support you as you create your future. On a weekly basis, you
will celebrate your current strengths, build on your present "wins" and
acknowledge gratefully that which you now must leave behind. The fast track to your goals
is what CornerStone is all about.
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| Idea of Week June 11, 1999
Strategies and
Answers- What is really important here, anyway?
On my mother's birthday last week, she and I and our dog
went walking on the deserted beach we've combed a hundred times before. I followed the
"birthday girl's" lead and climbed onto and around some rocks previously
unexplored by us. Our dog was in salt-water, crab-shell-eating heaven. We marveled at the
new mussel beds and contemplated a late-season harvest.
On the way back to the sandy shore, I asked her what she would most like her coming
year to be about for her life. Before she even had a chance to reply, we simultaneously
spotted a glittering plastic slipper newly washed ashore. Cinderella's slipper we mused,
and my mother revealed that she needed some shoes just like that for showering at the gym.
"When I find the other, my prince will come", she kidded, as she noticed that
the shoe was a perfect fit.
Joining the gym was a new thing for her. She was now strength-training in more than the
typical womanly arts. Strong ideas and character was now being balanced by healthy pecs
and rippling muscles. I was proud, as was she....Just then we both spotted the companion
in the water, sparkling about 5 feet in from the waters edge. She ripped off her shoes and
socks, waded in, and in moments retrieved it. A matching pair of beautiful and useful
shoes, the perfect size with the price tag still affixed.
A marvel that felt like a miracle, a question followed by an answer more meaningful
than any verbal one that could be presented. The universe is like that-
always poised to present the brilliant answer to all of our wonderings. A real shift makes
a real gift.
That day, we both learned a great deal. I learned that the answers to our greatest
questions are forthcoming- we just have to be willing to recognize the poetic and symbolic
language of the universe. She learned that she always gets what she needs, and then some.
Those shimmery slippers were far more beautiful than she believed even existed.
We also learned that a new turn in a familiar territory can yield many surprises, that
a change of pace can lead to a change of pacer. That a success strategy can be born of a
walk on the beach. That a good question leads to a great answer. That miracles are real
and really accessible.
That night I had a dream about those mussels. One opened before me and revealed a pearl in
the making- rough and crumbly- I also knew that when left alone, at harvest time it would
be a true gem.
*****Make your own miracles. Coaching can help.*****
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Idea of the Week – October 19, 1999
Row,
Sow, Tow Your Boat...
is life really but a dream?!
The great spiritual masters have said that life is but a dream. But here we are in a
scientific age with analytical brains and reason to boot. Let’s see...
If this were a dream then things that make no sense would happen sometimes, and we
would hardly question them. If this were a dream then things we’ve wondered about in
our waking hours would manifest here in unexpected and quirky ways.
If this life were indeed a dream, we might know once and a while that we were sleeping,
and be okay with that. If this were a dream, we would face those things most frightening
to ourselves, and we would often wake before the worst occurred.
If this were truly a dream, then we could shift and change in an instant. We could grow
older and younger at the drop of a hat. Sometimes we would drop a hat and it would fall
atop our heads...
If this were truly a dream then we might walk quietly, not always seen by the others in
our dream. If this were a dream then we would wonder little about this.
If this were a dream, we would make love in strange ways with people we don't even
know. If this were a dream the friends and strangers before us might shift and change into
some other people we also know.
If this were a dream, then the dead would live on, and we might cry when we see them
and thank God for our vision. If this were a dream, we might forget they were dead.
If this were a dream, then we might fly frequently, or run like the wind. If this were
a dream, we might look for castles and bejeweled spaces to cry in. If this were a dream,
we might marry a pope, or be a part of her entourage.
If this were a dream, we might get pregnant a lot, or walk naked in public, or pee on
the spot.
If this were a dream, we might want more sleep for another revisit. We might see on the
same thing over and over, in a context that changes...
If this were a dream, we might parcel our questions into a collage of some answers that
we don't even question.
If this were a dream, we might ride in the backseat or drive with no breaks.
If this were a dream, anything could happen, any wish fulfilled in surprisingly
wonderful ways. If this was a dream, funny things might come together and make perfect
sense.
If this were a dream, there would be only the one thing we could certainly predict:
that we would be present in it, and that we would wake up.
Good Morning!
[button: it’s the crack of dawn at Cornerstone]
©1999 by Elizabeth Mullen. All rights
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non-commercial purposes only.
So where are you on the struggle
continuum?
If you’ve ever wondered why an effort at self-change or improvement hasn’t
worked as quickly as you might like, you might want to consider how much you value
struggle.
What? Me value struggle? I am far too conscious for that……
Your idea of how much struggle or work should be involved before attaining your
goals is an important factor in determining how you will reach them -and your
gratification level upon "arrival". We always get what we want in the way
that means the most to us. Drops in your lap or work like a dog….which one is
"better"?
Consider this: human beings want to attain their goals, but it is also incredibly
important how they reach them. Human experience is about manifesting thought and desires, in
the way that best suits the individual. To some people a goal reached through hard
work and adversity is far more satisfying then the same thing dropped in their lap. Think
of the lottery. Most people would find it totally exciting to win, but just how satisfying
would it be for you? Not reaching one’s struggle quota can make the attainment seem
meaningless. So you get what you want the way you want it. How much anticipation and work
will give you the ultimate experience?
On the struggle continuum of 1 to 100: If a 1 is someone giving you the winning
lottery ticket today, direct-depositing the money for you, and 100 is clawing miles
through the desert with broken legs to get the only glass of water, fighting off 10
screaming banshees in the process----where do you lie on the continuum? Where would you
prefer to be? A 5, 40, hard-core 95? Will you allow yourself fulfillment from a goodie
dropped in your lap? How might that experience be useful?
Many "new age" and self help books and programs teach us that as we clean up
our own lives, purify, etc. that our desires will manifest faster and faster. This is
true----- and consider your underlying belief system too. Your manifesting capabilities
can give you your heart’s desire right now. The more you value this, the more you
will experience immediate manifestations of your goals. Conversely, if success would mean
more to you if you…worked really hard, overcame challenges and persevered for
….3 years—that is how you will get it. Got it?!
There is no better way…only your way. Choose it.
C 1999 Elizabeth Mullen. Any commercial use of the above written
material is prohibited without the express written permission of the author.
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"But
entertainment is sacred!!!" you say.
...indeed it is...
You've probably heard that television and movies put people into highly receptive
states... Dark rooms with colorful flickering lights, telling stories, emoting noises.
Emotions, mystery, the beautiful, and fantasy all on a compelling box set in front of
our eyes. Usually before the show or the movie, or even before the commercial is
finished, we have indeed lost our self-awareness for at least a moment or two. Even while
distracted with another task, the input from the TV still makes it into our psyche: what
do you remember better, chopping the vegetables or Seinfeld's latest escapade?
In the case of television, we know that the receptive state viewers naturally attain is
highly valuable to advertisers. But do you really want to be thinking that you might need
Depends undergarments as a 50 year old? Do you really want to be able to, at the slightest
provocation, sing the jingles for fast food joints and beer?
So how do you use this wonderful opportunity to program yourself? What if
every moment you were being entertained you were also absorbing information and emotions,
according only to YOUR agenda?
If you want your mind full of what other people want to fill it with, then read no
further! And to those of you continuing on, you probably have an inkling that your life
will be wonderfully different when your mind and soul are filled with thoughts, ideas,
emotions, and songs of YOUR creation or invitation. So how can you do this and still
actually relax?
So simple it's as easy as turning on and tuning out... Just ask these two things about
yourself as you switch on the remote or chew on some popcorn. This will cause your
subconscious mind to go to work on your agenda, not just the advertisers':
1) Why are you watching? (to be entertained, escape, appease a friend,
learn, etc.)
2) What specifically do you want to get out of watching? (a mental
break, a deeper sense of meaning, an idea for a new song, a clear career direction, a
certain feeling, information to make you rich, etc.)
That's it. Now couch it up!
This is the essence of psychological mastery, described in one highly specific
application. There are numerous opportunities to use and test the results. So just do it,
and then let me know what happened. We'd all rather hear that
then the theme song to the McNeil-Lehrer Report.
[Button: master your mind, by any means necessary!]
©1999 by Elizabeth Mullen. All rights reserved. May
be electronically transmitted with copyright information intact for non-commercial
purposes only.
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