September 6, 1999


The Self Help Symphony
How to make it ALL work for you....

Have you ever noticed just how many self-help and physical health books there are on the market? Ever wonder why we have such a fascination with being new and improved? Any scan of the bestsellers will reveal the same thing, a culture's obsession with self-improvement and feeling good.

We've all noticed how contradictory much of this advice may seem. Admit you are powerless; develop your personal power. Eat lots of grains; carbs don't agree with your blood type. Rest when you feel weak; move to become strong. Your heart will heal you; your thinking will make you well. Trust yourself; follow these instructions.

There seem to be no end of ways to vibrant health, incredible confidence and spiritual well-being. It could make the intelligent seeker dizzy with excitement, then confused in trying to reconcile all of these contradictory instructions. Every pioneer of new thought is so enthusiastic that we cannot discredit them easily, yet how do we know who is right? how do we know what will work for us?

Perhaps the answer lies in something other than another type of specific advice. Maybe asking, 'who is right?' is a futile exercise. Maybe each way can and does work. Maybe the question needs to be: What is it that all self-help methodology has in common? What resonates so well with us? Maybe we do not have to analyze and choose between methods, but instead, notice the common theme that makes them all work.

Think for a minute: when we approach the self-help world, we are are saying something like this to ourselves, "I don’t feel great, how can I feel better?" We acknowlege that some mental, physical or emotional state could be improved. But what is interesting here is, who (or what part of you) is making this assesment? The voice that speaks for change here is completely rational.

Have we always known that feeling bad also includes a space of crystal-clear rationality? Can we notice the clarity of this state, the detachment, the hopefulness? The emotional state we find ourselves in when we seek answers, relief, or growth is rich with subtleties, and rich with possibility. Perhaps this state is what we really crave; the first step on the road to feeling great.

Perhaps all the various methods are but symbolic gestures of this initial state taken forward in time. Maybe they all can work, because it is not the method---only the madness that matters. Maybe it doesn’t really matter which direction you choose...maybe you can keep changing your mind too. What I mean here is, if you can discern your clarity of awareness within your varied emotional and physical states, must you commit to only one path of growth?

Maybe the ancient words "you cannot serve two masters," were spoken to instruct the lost, not to limit the found. Once we know that we stand in a space of clarity, rationality, intelligence and love concurrently with every 'tough' emotion, we can experience healthier states just by "trying on" another's self-help miracle. Maybe we can experience all good results, as we stand in our clarity and listen for new songs of growth. Maybe we can believe that the world is always offering us a million and one ways to heal, libraries of vibrant health, and songs of salvation . Perhaps our individual lives are like a symphony of instruments, playing in harmony a variety of beautiful tunes. Maybe where we really want to be is exactly where we are: standing in the ground of awareness and witnessing a universe full of answers.

©1999 by Elizabeth Mullen. All rights reserved. May be electronically transmitted with copyright information intact for non-commercial purposes only.

 

When you discover, when you find your individual connection, whatever path you may be on, that connection to spirit... you find then that your life becomes one of service. You don't have a choice. That service becomes your joy and your recreation. What fills you.
- Ramakrishna Vivakananda

 

 

The Top 10 Questions For Expanded Awareness

Category: Spirituality, Awareness, Path, Energy, Flow, Learning, Consciousness (BC188)   Originally Submitted on 10/14/99.

If every question you've ever asked were definitely to be answered, what answers would you like your life to unfold before you? How about the general theory of relativity or the secrets of creation? What might an imagination create in a life if it fed itself nothing but a stream of astonishing questions? Here is a few for YOU, to catalyze your quest...

1. Once world peace and hunger are handled, what's next?

2. What is one strategy that you use in life that is not "supposed to" work, but actually does?

3. If you had the attention of 10 million people for 1 minute, what specifically would you do?

4. What is the difference between a ditch digger and a ground breaker?

5. What would entertain a herd of enlightened folks? What would work better still?

6. If you could only ask yourself one question for the rest of your life, what would it be?

7. If you were to summarize your unique gifts in three words, what would they be?

8. What language would you create if you could?

9. How are you breathing right now?

10. Who loves ya, baby?

This piece was originally submitted by Elizabeth Mullen, Principal LifeCoach of Cornerstone CoachingTM and Artist of Effortless Living, who can be reached at em@cornerstonecoaching.com, or visited on the web. Elizabeth Mullen wants you to know: Dare to ask yourself the questions that count... if you don't, I will!

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CornerStoneCoachingTM
Idea of the Week
Bedtime Story-  PARTS  I , II & Conclusion

December 6 & 13 , 1999


Myrtle …….

Once upon a time in the old cold hills of a north English town, there lived a bevy of beautiful girls. Beautiful all, though the Headmistress might not say so to each of them directly. Some were fatter, some thinner, some had a hare lip and some were tangled in ribbons and bows.

They all were here this night sleeping. Four in a room and fourteen rooms on a floor. Schooling together, it was said. Schooling and learning a little too, thought the Headmistress. This the girls believed, though some secretly wondered if this is where their parents put bad little girls, who didn’t sleep soundly.

Even Samantha and Sandy, who wondered such things, had to admit that it all was not bad (apart from the steamy oats in the morning). Samantha got to sing first all the time in the morning, Headmistress said her voice was melodic. Sandy played nasty now and again. Sometimes she saw stars as her punishment, but most times she saw an angry face soften to concern. "its not too bad," Sandy said all the time to herself.

This night they lay sleeping in their cots and their beds, tossed in with their carelessly placed blankets. A row of bodies and blankets and clocks. Each face glowed a little differently, each poised for a ring-a-ding or a beep beep beep hours later. Samantha always set hers first, the earliest to go off. This way she could wash and sing and sit for breakfast before the other girls. She liked being first. Samantha’s clock often sounded the other girls into a half-sleepy state of forgiveness. "that alarm again!" they would say to themselves, "hhh, not time yet," as they listened one-eared for their unique beep or ring-a-ding or moo-cluck-cluck. Oh yes, that was Hilary with the farm animal alarm. Hers always went off last and Hilary was glad. Already awake, she could hear the sound and remember the animals she left behind on her family’s old farm years ago.

So, this night they lay sleeping, and the headmistress was reading. Ooops! Not anymore!

Headmistress "retired" she said, and put the book down and shut off the light. Down the hall and to the right, the last bit of light disappeared into the night.

The quiet was full and the rustling was rampant. "Oh," said the Sandy to herself, "I guess I can rest now. The night is so damp, but the lamp keeps me awake no longer…"

So, this night they all lay sleeping.

Myrtle slid up from her place on the left of the center. She gently rose and twirled and lay down again. A moment to plan, she thought. "What do the girls have in store for tonight?" She asked herself this with an air of delight.


Myrtle gently crept by Samantha’s pillow and reached up and under it. "Nothing but an extra hair or two." Myrtle rustled under, "but she’s always first…." Myrtle wondered. Myrtle shifted and left her questions behind her. Up and under Sandy’s pillow, and Hilary’s too. Up and under Margaret’s head and shoulders, she reached ever so gently. "Nothing tonight!" she thought and proceded to do a fairy dance around the bedroom, leaping lover-ly around from the right.

"Myrtle the Turtle" the girls often said as they drifted off to sleep. This was the name they gave her as they mumble in bed. Much fancier than "tooth fairy" or "nymph" or "godmother." Much more earthy than "twinkly" or "breathy" (though these were much better descriptions).

Myrtle it was, and Myrtle made her laugh. "I love these girls," she thought, "but with them, I never get to play…. How can this night be different?" she mused to herself. "There are no teeth to transform, no notes, or diaries to read. What is a Myrtle to do?" she giggled a tune.

PART II

Suddenly, Myrtle had an idea. Her many long nights of toothless musing had given her a pot of golden coins. All that time and no teeth to transform: she had taken to collecting from behind sofa cushions and under closet boxes. A pot of coins she had nearby: many, many more than she could possibly give away to these tooth filled wonder girls. The coins were for them, but she could only put a small handful under each pillow per tooth, or else stir them awake and ruin their sleep. "But to play, to play, to hear Samantha sing and Sandy whine, to hear moo, oink, cluck, cluck in the middle of the night!" Myrtle twirled and twirled with delight and made a plan to have fun that night.

"Wake up dear Samantha, Wake up Sandy too. Wake up Hilary and Margaret" she gently whispered in each girl’s ear. "Time to get up and reach for the pot of gold."

"Oh Myrtle," one girl rolled over and mumbled in a whispery voice, "not now, not now…." and her voice trailed off.

Myrtle was shocked and surprised to be recognized, but then she realized the girl was still in dreamland and so, could ever so faintly hear her speaking. "Wake up dear Sandy" she stated abruptly, and Sandy pulled a pillow over her head in a hurry. "Nah!" she said with a start and heard beeping and beeping flying around the room over her head. "Its not time yet. I know it!" she said as she rolled into a rumpus and buried her head.

"Wake up dear Margaret", she tickled near Margaret’s ear, "the riches are calling you!" Still no response…although maybe that sleepy swat at the fly round the neck was a sign of awakening. "Are you up?" Myrtle pleaded. A smile, a swat, and still no result.

Down the hall next, and Myrtle went, one by one, to each girl’s bed. "No," they whispered in their sleep, "no , not just yet." The Headmistresses room was aglow with more heat. She turned it up often, to soften her feet. "Shall I go into that room?" Ms. Turtle whispered to herself with a spin. "No, not tonight. The Spirits are in her." Myrtle knew that a little nip was taken before bed, with the book and the light and the crumpet with jam. A warmness she cradled in her stomach & her head.

Myrtle did not do justice to her name. Instead she flew, danced and sparkled her way back down the hall to the first room on the right. Not a single tooth or girl to wake up early. Not a one for tonight.


"Well, what about Hilary?" Myrtle thought to herself, with a shake and a pinch and a glance at the shelf. "Still hours ‘til daybreak and hours more till they’re gone. Her clock is set to go last. Why must I bother now, she will surely say "NO"?" Still a fairy never questions a good question or two, knowing the answers always and only come in the room of the girls she glances over and plays for at night.

"My head can be wrong at times, but my hand never lies. I can find a coin, a tooth, a diary and inside it read the secrets of these girls, and with a quick breath and a gentle pull of the covers, I love them even more."

"Hilary may be the slowest and dirtiest, but my hand always warms when I reach under her pillow to check on her status." And since when is a slowness a fairy’s foe, or dirt, when I bury the treasures in troves!"

"Hilary," Myrtle snuck in by the top of her head, "its me, your friend. Oink Oink, Chirp Chirp." Hilarys dreams now interrupted: a goose that sounds like a pig can do that to a dream. Hilary rustled her hands under the covers. Myrtle noticed she twinkled her toes too (or was that a twonkle?!).

"Yes Myrtle?" said Hilary, and she sat up gently in bed. She looked all around and gazed back by the head of her bed. There was her fairy friend she’d dreamed of many a night. At this moment Myrtle shouted and wind-stormed a whirlwind of delight.

"you hear me, you see me, you’re ready to play! How long have I waited and saved for a day (no, ‘scuse me, NIGHT) like today!"

"Come take my hand and I’ll guide you through all of my land, and more of your land, as the night creeps on wildly. We can barter, and bargain and rustle some feathers."

"We can dance, and we’ll sing and light big huge fires," Myrtle attested.

"We will..." and Hilary quickly interrupted this stream....

CONCLUSION

"We will..." and Hilary quickly interrupted this stream, "Myrtle, I love you I do, but I’ve never heard of such things. Bargain and barter… What do you mean?" Hilary’s fear was a bit on her face, but Myrtle’s delight cancelled her late-sleeping fate.

"For ages I’ve collected the gems of your land. I’ve captured gold coin and trinkets, books and brassieres. With me you’ll see all the treasures I’ve found. Some carefully left behind, some tossed to the ground."

"I want you to see all that I’ve saved for you. The one to awaken and play with me, the one who knew that I want only to give to you more than you’ve given me. I take teeth and I turn them to gold, so you can see!"

"Come with me now, and I’ll show you a tour of a magical place that you will finally rule. This place was made for you and by you," Myrtle continued, "Your teeth were the cornerstones of buildings of trees and flowers and bumblebees nests. Light sparkles also color the scene, and glorious sounds dance through the trees. You can have Whatever you want here- it is yours for the taking!"

Hilary sat quietly on the edge of her bed, her tiny companion practically whistling her wishes and weaving her paintings on her warm blanket before her. Myrtle felt anxious, something she never felt. And Hilary felt peaceful and calm. The little trixie wondered if "maybe I’ve scared her and offered too much, maybe she doesn’t really want to get up."

All at once Hilary stroked her covers with fondness. She remembered her friend the pet sheep, Bah Bah Badness. "I’ve got two things to say to you tonight, my new friend Myrtle. By the end I will know what really must happen ‘til sunup."

Myrtle sank back by the feet of her friend. Myrtle twisted and turned and felt light in her head. "I want you to know", said Hilary clearly, "that I’ve been there before. Didn’t you know that’s why I lay in my bed every morning? waiting for a memory of the farm to pull me back to my school?" Hilary said.

"Every night I go visit to the land that is yours. While you tiptoe here, I go gently there. I’ve handled the gold coins, I’ve spotted the trinkets. I’ve seen all the riches, the beauty the lightness. I’ve felt the sweet breezes, and walked with your friends. They didn’t know me though, as they thought I was you in disguise…apparently a fairy can change shape in other’s eyes."

"I’ve been there and loved it, and I’ve been there and bored. I welcome the daybreak here at Headmistresses School. Just as I welcome a new tooth and a gold coin or two on occasion, for a sweet treat for me and my friends."

Myrtle grew still, yet a shimmer remained. She looked almost earthy, all a glitter but real. She listened intently to this news that surprised her. Riches and trinkets were not to hold a girls only attention. To attract her to awaken at night, "there was more to her life," thought Myrtle. "I must listen closer"…she said with puzzled delight.

As the others lay still in their beds, Hilary stated, "this night above others, I welcome your waking. For tonight you came into our bedroom, and came to me shaking." (as usual, a chuckle burbled through Myrtle as she imagined herself quiver).

"I need nothing more than what I have here hence. I know what is here and I know what is now. I know I have trinkets and riches and glitter. I know I have Samantha and Sandy and Margaret. I know I have Headmistress and home when I want it . I know I have evening and cow sounds at rising. I know I have you, a whispering playmate. I need not wake up any more than I am, to see all that is and to feel glorious gems."

"I need not have night-times as different than daybreak. But I love them and I keep them. So I ask you to stay, exactly as you want, WHERE you want to be, either hither or neigh."

Myrtle teared a little, a fancy new emotion, and took the hand of her friend, her teacher, her notion. "Hilary my dear. To all close and near. I thank you more than any. You’re the last to arise with the widest of eyes. I know now what you really need and I grant you your fortune."

Ten minutes till daybreak and Myrtle departed. She jumped and she stomped and she flew and she farted. Myrtle the Turtle set each alarm off, first Samantha, then Margaret then Sandy….. As each girl got up and did her own washing, Myrtle stayed on this time, invisible- watching.

To sing like Samantha, now she knew what that meant. To grumble like Sandy, to whine and to vent. Myrtle decided to turtle on back to her place, knowing each girl she saw would come someday to her place.

Down the hall Myrtle went, and took a sharp left, to Mistress’s bed, her breathing, her head. The songs of Sammy were ringing, the clocks, they were singing: "moo moo, cluck cluck" was the sound from the last room on the right. No body was sleeping. No one slept there that night.

The end


©1999 by Elizabeth Mullen. All rights reserved. May be electronically transmitted with copyright information intact for non-commercial purposes only.

 

 

November 2, 1999

Get Your Piece of the Real Deal

...making your best visions come true and disarming negative offenders

Have you ever been on the losing end of the universal law, "you get what you resist against"? Have you ever found yourself getting another, more refined version of what you do not want, even though you've been thinking and doing everything right?

If you want to transform your results, or want to produce a more refined version of what you do want, then here is the formula for you:

VISION + BELIEF + EMOTIONAL CHARGE  = MANIFESTATION

Amazingly enough, you need not have all three components of this formula to make an outcome manifest. Combining even two elements will bring forth a worldly result. Remember a time that you blindly anticipated that "something wonderful" was about to happen to you...and it did!?  You didn't even need a vision in this case, merely belief and emotion proved the recipe for the wonder pie. Of course, by combining all three your results become fast and full-on fabulous!

So why are so many people getting so much of what they don't want? Perhaps it is because they know too clearly what they don't want is. These inner pictures of low-paying jobs, or mean people, or nasty grunginess are so vivid for most people that they may get an emotional charge just thinking about them! As we know from the formula above, VISION + EMOTION is a major way to make the worst (and best!) come true.

Another tactic that has misfired positive manifestation is denying or "stuffing" negative mental images. Let me explain this... When a person (maybe even a positive thinker) has an internal negative image and stuffs or quickly denies it, two powerful manifestation principals begin to create it in reality. By stuffing the negative vision, the positive thinker has presupposed that entertaining the notion will make it come true (BELIEF). And this denial process also contains a strong jolt of EMOTION: "I can't think about that! ICK!" 

Yikes! what can be done to remedy this? How can we handle the negative thoughts or mental pictures that we might see, and manifest consciously?

First off, don't expose yourself to negativity willingly. If it creeps in anyway, use these two very powerful Manifestation Rescue Principals to turn your outcome around:

1. Give equal mind time

...to the positive vision of what you DO want. Just like the politicians on the TV news, each side deserves equal time in the spotlight. So, give the good guy equal time--- then let the best man win.

2. Look closely at the negative vision (yes, really!) with dispassionate emotions and a new belief .  Possible new beliefs include: I am only open to good. I can face my fear and make miracles anyway. I am guided toward beautiful visions. I am divinely delivered from this, etc. Dispassion is an action of slowing down your breathing and looking for a bigger picture.

What would your world be like if you applied these principals, and utilized this recipe to consciously make your favorite kind of lifetime pie? What if your super-charged emotions made way for more amazing action, or the vision you've chosen inspired your mind? How could a belief or two bring these ideas immediately into action for you? Is it another day for mincemeat, or time for the sweetest taste of wild cherry pie?

[button: Smart action is natural when you've got your vision in line]

Too much of a good thing is wonderful.
-Mae West

 

 

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